How to Balance Living as an Unbridled Sexual Goddess in the Era of Consent + Monogamous and Non-Monogamous Couples as Friends

I’ve had an incredibly high sex drive for most of my life. I was one of the first to loose my virginity when I was in high school (or at least one of the first to start talking about how I did amongst my friends (who were what we would classically call nerds and band geeks, which I was one of without being in band)). The one time I went to a bar and found someone to make out with me I was incredibly pleased, but in the age of consent I’m having to tip toe around/figure out/use my words and see where I fit into this puzzle in a different way.

When I went through high school, starting in ’07, we were a world away from the me too movement. We were living in what might have been a nightmare for some people, but was enjoyable to me. As high-schoolers we touched each other freely and didn’t talk about it too much, consent wasn’t a word that was taught or talked about much growing up for me. I don’t know if you’ll remember this, but there was a game called bag tagging, the premise was to touch as many guy’s balls to win the game and there were titty twisters where you touched people nipples and twisted hard. I received one of those tried my best to never play the game again. But the point here is that we didn’t ask, it was sort of a free for all up to a certain level of touching in high school for me.

I started googling era of consent, because in my mind the publicity of consent…