I Talk About The Positives of Polyamory…but I Don’t Talk Too Much About the 10+ Years of Getting to Here, so Here’s a Taste.

Things are great between my partner and I, but there’s 8 years of getting to know each other, deep connection, years of jealous, and a string of other previous relationships before that didn’t work out.

I try to always look on the bright side and stay optimistic, but there’s definitely been some downfalls and pitfalls that I don’t talk about much since they aren’t part of my current dialog. Let’s dive in to a few of my not so happy memories to say that it does take some heartbreak, jealously, and a lot of communication to get to where I’m at now.

My first triangle relationship began when I was 16 with my first boyfriend. I knew from an early age (8th grade when the concept was introduced to me) that I liked boys and girls. Poly wasn’t a term I was similar with until around 5 years ago, I’ve been poly for about 15 years, just without language. My first encounter ended poorly with my boyfriend sleeping with the girl we were trying to date, and I never being able to get past kissing. This was in an era before consent wasn’t as publicized as it is now and to me every time I tried to move further with her I read her body language as a no and stopped. I’ve since been with one other person like this in the era of consent and asked many questions, all of which I was granted permission to move forward with. It felt kind of like trying to be sexual with a wet fish, there was permission…