I’m the least likely to cheat on my partner when I’m having sex with someone else (and they know about it).

Let’s face it: I’m a cheater. Not at life or on tests, but sexually. I’m drawing to cheating and it seems like many other people are too. I don’t lie about my cheating, I like to be upfront because I know it’s a weakness of mine. I’ve even gone for nearly two years at a time with a monogamous partner and not cheated on them (especially during the pandemic), but I tend to eventually cheat by at least making out with someone.

The good news is there is a solution for me. Do it with my partner. I hate the guilt and stress that cheating brings to relationships, but I’m not a fully monogamous person no matter how much I try to put myself in that box. I have a loving, caring, supportive, and understanding partner who knows this about me and is open to a few specific fixes for my wandering ways. We play together with other people. Theresomes, foursomes, and the rare occasion of an orgy. It isn’t easy for these occasional occurrences to happen, but every once in a while I can appease my desire and it usually brings me closer to my partner. I’m happy to stay at home with him as long as I can have a small taste of what’s out there every once in a while.

Like I said today: I’m the least likely to cheat on you when I’m having sex with someone else. My desire for the unknown is quenched and maybe we made some amazing friends that we’d like to continue to meet up with.

Being everything for one person can be incredibly daunting, especially if you have someone who is interested in all genders of people. Having needs fulfilled elsewhere in a safe and open environment can be an amazing way to connect with your partner, try something new, and maybe learn a new thing about your partner’s sexual preferences. I’m sticking that trick in my book!